Thursday, August 25, 2011

Josh's Guatemala Trip

As I previously posted, my husband Josh went on a Compassion trip to Guatemala at the end of July.  He has been a bit under the weather since returning from his trip, so it has taken him a little while to get blogs posted about his experiences there.  He has posted all but his last day - which was the day that he met our sponsored child, Jeremias - but I thought I would share the links to the posts that he has finished so far. 

They can be found at his blog Just Josh.  I encourage you to scroll down to "Day 1" and read the posts in sequential order.

I will let you know when the last post about his visit with Jeremias is available.  Until then, I will show you the beautiful gifts that his family gave to us.

This scarf was weaved by his grandmother.  It is made with very fine threads and has a very intricate pattern, which is hard to see in the picture.  These scarves are used all the time in Guatemala.  They wrap them around their bodies and carry everything in them, even children.

The bag Elias has was weaved by Jeremias.  He was very proud of his first weaving attempts and was very concerned that it got to Elias.  Elias loves it!  He carries it around the house all the time.  Elias is imagining hugging Jeremias for the gift in this picture. 

Tuesday, August 23, 2011

A week of firsts for Bella

This week Bella had her first day of kindergarten, her first school bus ride, her first loose tooth (the day before she started kindergarten), her first lost tooth (the second day of kindergarten), and her first visit from the tooth fairy.  I have posted some pictures below.  If you are on Facebook, you may have already seen them.



Bella and Elias shared a seat with our neighbor's kids who have a 3rd grader and a kindergartener.

He was really proud of being able to show Bella the ropes at his school.

She was so excited.  She couldn't stop putting her tongue in it and looking at it in the mirror.

Sunday, August 21, 2011

Looking back...

A year ago today, I woke up in Peru.

If you were not viewing my blog a year ago and would like to here my initial perceptions during my trip, you can visit the August 2010 archives and scroll down to the "Day One Update" post to start the week's entries.

Sometimes I think I will never forget the experiences I had there.  Other times it makes me sad to think of all that I have already forgotten. 

Friday, August 19, 2011

Mysterious flushing toilet

You know those corny old movies where crazy things start happening to a house because some ghost who doesn't want the owners to be there haunts them to try to get them to leave?

If I didn't know better, I would think that I am starring in one now.  Our house has had more than it's share of quirky problems lately.  But now, about once an hour or more, it sounds like our toilet is flushing, but when Josh looked at the toilets there seems to be nothing wrong with them.

I think I need to call Ghost Adventurers!  I was going to say Ghost Busters, but the Ghost Adventurers are a lot more comical and they aren't even trying to be! If you don't know who the Ghost Adventurers are, you aren't missing much, except a laugh at the absurdity.  If you chose to Google it, just remember that you were warned!

I am not really scared of ghosts.  First, because I don't believe in them. And, second, if there were ghosts they'd probably have something more important to do than flush my toilet.  But I am scared to see my water bill next month! 


Too Small To Ignore - Chapter 11


Chapter 11
Why doesn’t poverty just go away?

Chapter 11 begins discussing the complexity of poverty and how poverty is not simply a shortage of money.  Wess discusses efforts made to supply for the physical needs of those in poverty.  But many of these efforts don’t net long-term effects.  He writes, “The world’s greatest economic minds have studied, researched, analyzed, and written thick books on the subject.  Still, the world’s rich seem to get richer, while the poor get poorer.  Is this truly an unsolvable puzzle?”

On the plane ride down to Peru, I sat beside a woman who carried a Coach purse, had manicured nails, fine clothes and jewelry, and a demeanor of wealth about her.  I was surprised to find out that she was born and raised in Lima and she was surprised that I was traveling to Lima because, in her words, “There is nothing much about Lima to visit”.  She definitely did not fit the picture I had of a Peruvian.  I think I mistakenly believed that when a country is listed as a “developing country”, that there is no wealthy people to be found, except for nasty, corrupt government officials who are exploiting those around them.  Now, this may be true in many cases, but since this lady seemed kind enough, I will give her the benefit of the doubt.  It is similar to the person who commutes through the “rough part of town” from their posh suburb in America.  Except the rough neighborhoods are just the majority and the posh suburbs are more the minority.  Once we arrived in Peru, it was startling to see a sparkling, brightly lit BMW dealership only blocks away from squatter villages without proper utilities or sanitation. 

But as Wess explains, conquering poverty isn’t about spreading the wealth, but changing our mindsets – those of the rich and the poor.  Wess points out that when a child lives in poverty, they learn that what they think or feel doesn’t really matter and that they can’t change their circumstances, so they might as well not even try.  On the flip side, children who are raised in excess can develop a selfish, individualistic view that they matter more than others and that they have more right to live in wealth than another.  Neither view is beneficial and these mindsets are at the root of why poverty continues to exist.  This is summarized best on page 177, “So why is a third of our world battling obesity and spending huge sums to burn off calories, while the other two-thirds yearn to get more of them?”

It is hard to summarize concisely the wagon wheel diagram that is used on page 176.  It takes the entirety of the chapter to adequately describe each spoke.  So I will just highlight each “spoke” and the importance of each.  Wess states on page 178, “As you will see in our journey around the wheel, the spokes are interdependent.  Every one must be strong.  A deficiency in any one of them will quickly make the others crack under the strain.”  So, even though they are listed separately, they cannot be truly separated if the model is to be effective.

Spoke 1 – Economics
This is the most apparent aspect of poverty – the lack of money.  If you are familiar with Compassion, you have probably heard that poverty is not just a lack of money, but a lack of options or opportunities and that the opposite of poverty isn’t wealth, but “enough”.  Lack of money equates to lack of options. 

Spoke 2 – Health
Health does not just refer to medical treatment when necessary, but health maintenance.  To maintain health, proper food, nutrition, and sanitation are a must. And while Americans debate the value and necessity of immunizations for dozens of illnesses, children in other countries are dying from diarrhea from the water they drink.

Spoke 3 – Learning
On page 178, Wes writes, “Poverty is greatly aggravated by the absence of information and acquired skills.”  In our culture, information about anything is just a click away.  We not only have access to the information, but the ability to assess and analyze information, based on our academic histories.  Children who are in poverty are often not encouraged to increase their knowledge. In some cultures, it can even be frowned upon. 

Spoke 4 – Environment
It is heart wrenching to think about the wonderful regions of God’s beautiful creation that have been ravaged in the name of progress and industry.  On top of this, natural disasters strike the poor the hardest.  America has recently had its share of natural disasters, but even if our rescue and recovery system is not perfect, at least there is one in place.  In developing countries, there is often no government organization designed to assist those torn by floods, earthquakes and the like.  When the environment is destroyed or disrupted it changes the entire course of people’s lives.  It can also leave people feeling destitute.

Spoke 5 – Social or Sociopolitical
“Poverty is, among other things, a function of being powerless in the halls of government and the social structures that administer our lives.  I am not making excuses here or looking for scapegoats. I am simply acknowledging that if you are fairly sure your vote won’t count and that whatever taxes you pay will only end up financing a war or maybe increasing the governor’s personal fortune, it is very easy to get discouraged and become fatalistic.” Pg. 179 
Many adults in developing countries who are now active in their country’s politics and community lives were once sponsored children.  When these children gain an education and develop a relationship with God, they are the ones who are the agents of change in their environments.  They have greater authority and impact than any outsider.

Spoke 6 – Spiritual
Just as the next subtitle of the chapter says “It’s ALL Spiritual”. There is much spiritual oppression around the world.  Many myths are believed that put people in true physical danger.  As Wess points out, families starve, yet they will sacrifice animals to gods who they are told need appeasing.  But when these same people learn that God loves them, “All the dollars and euros and pesos and shillings and rupees in the world will not equal the peace that comes from knowing a God who loves you.  He’s not out to get you or destroy you.  He is, in fact, on your side.  He’s more powerful than the evil spirits around you.”

The rest of the chapter discusses the oppression that the poor feel and how poverty creates a downward spiral.  The harsh conditions make them feel that there is nothing more to do than to just give up.  Wess states this well on page 185,
“It may seem easy from our perspective to give a pep talk.  But if any of us were stripped of our heritage, our can-do spirit, our education, our money, our health, and the justice we take for granted, we, too, would rapidly come to the conclusion that, ‘I don’t know what I need to know. I can’t do what I need to do. I don’t have what I need to have. And it’s all beyond me.  It’s not my fault!’ That is the heart and soul of poverty.

But in the same way that poverty and Satan’s lies destroy a person, opportunity and God’s love can transform them.  When a child realizes that what they think and feel does matter and that they can make an impact on others, they start to actually do it!  A quote on page 188 by Henry Ford says, “The only thing you can give a man without hurting him is an opportunity.”  This is the essence of what Compassion attempts to do.  Instead of attacking the symptoms of poverty, it attacks the root of poverty – the lies and the cycles of generational apathy it creates and the downward spiral is turned into an outward ripple. 

“One changed child eventually changes a family.  A changed family will influence change in its church.  Enough changed churches will transform the community.  Changed communities change regions.  Changed regions will in time change an entire nation.” Pg. 191-192.

Thursday, August 18, 2011

Too Small To Ignore - Chapter 10


When I first read “Too Small To Ignore”, chapters 10 & 11 were the ones I highlighted most.  They are the chapters that describe in the most detail not only how Compassion’s child development model works, but why they use the “child-focused” model, versus the more common “community-focused” model.  To put it plainly, Compassion doesn’t seek to change the child’s circumstances primarily, but to change to the child so he or she is empowered to change their own circumstances. 

Part Two of this book shows a dramatic shift from where Wess Stafford came from to where he is today and where he wants to go.  He still references Nielle, the African village where he was raised, but it is no longer the principal focus. 

Chapter 10
Back to “Civilization”

If you have ever traveled internationally to a developing country, you can probably partially relate to the culture shock that Wess describes in chapter 10.  Wess says at the end of the chapter, “Suddenly it hit me like a blow to my gut.  There is plenty of food in this world for everyone!..There is enough medicine, too!...For most of my teenage years in America, I lived with a broken heart.”  Since I traveled last year to Peru with Compassion, I feel that I have lived with a similar broken heart.  It is difficult to know that poverty is too readily tolerated and accepted in developed countries and dually received and expected by the poor in developing counties. “Systems” often fail to remedy the problems of poverty the way people who truly care can.

Wess describes in this chapter the values that he learned growing up around those living in poverty. 
“These most precious values I have come to call the ‘pearls of poverty,’ given to me by the peasants of West Africa. The pearl is a jewel…But unlike the others, a pearl comes originally from suffering.  The oyster gets a grain of sand inside its shell…Over time, the oyster begins to protect itself from that irritant by coating it with a secretion, layer upon layer, until it becomes a smooth, brilliant, shining treasure-a pearl!” pg.164-165

The pearls he lists are:
  • Love
  • Joy
  • Hope
  • Time Perspective
  • People Matter, Things Don’t
  • Knowing How to Give and Receive


The first sentence he writes about the pearl of Love is, “Nothing is more powerful in the world today.  It cannot be bought; in fact, it belongs to the very poor as much as the very rich.”

About Joy he writes, “The poor comprehend that joy is not dictated by the circumstances of life.  Joy is a decision, a very brave one, about how you are going to respond to life.

About Hope he writes, “Even when life’s harshness and injustices pile up, the poor cling tenaciously to hope.  They will humble you with their absolute belief in a loving God who can be trusted to sustain and bless them.”

About Time Perspective he writes, “The poor understand that time is to be our servant, not our master, and as a result they manage always to have time for one another and what is important.  The tyranny of time, I find, is a dreadful disease, especially for the wealthy; among them it is a nearly fatal condition and horribly contagious.”

When he discusses the pearl that “People matter, things don’t” he writes, “If we stop and put the values of eternity into perspective, we realize that we take nothing with us.  Our only legacy is the lives of the people we have touched in Jesus’ name.

Lastly, about the pearl of “knowing how to give and receive” he writes, “To give selflessly is truly on of the greatest joys in life….In my experience, it is also easier to give than to receive….In my village, selfishness was considered a tremendous evil. I witnessed amazing displays of the stong using their strength to lift up the fallen, to carry more than their share of the load-and doing it modestly in ways that honored those they were helping.”

This chapter introduces what the poor taught Wess Stafford and chapter 11 will discuss how he, along with others in the Compassion leadership, developed the child development model, based on their experience living alongside the poor.

Wednesday, August 17, 2011

Too Small To Ignore

The book "Too Small To Ignore" was written by Wess Stafford, the current CEO of Compassion International, in 2007.

I read this book shortly after it was released.  I normally have trouble making it through non-fiction books, but this book is a very easy read.  It is broken into two parts.  The first part is a vivid description of what it was like for Wess to grow up in a missionary family halfway around the world.  Even though it is non-fiction, it reads like an interesting novel.  The second part gives an in-depth view of how his childhood formed his adult mission and ministry.


Since the cover of the book offers a great introduction to the book, I thought it best to share that here, instead of trying to come up with an adequate introduction myself.

The time has come, argues Dr. Wess Stafford, for a major paradigm shift: Children are too important and too intensely loved by God to be left behind or left to chance. Children belong to all of us and we are compelled to intervene on their behalf. We must invest in children–all across the world.
There are strategic, persuasive reasons–beyond love and kindness–to invest in children. Today they may snuggle into your lap, if you let them. But tomorrow you may not have access to them in the corridors of power they might occupy. Now is the time to shape the future.
Dr. Stafford issues an urgent call for change. His adventures as a boy raised in a West African village provide an often-humorous and always-captivating backdrop to his profound and inspiring challenges. Wess lived the reality of “it takes a village to raise a child” and calls us to “be that loving village for children everywhere.”
This book will encourage you to turn your good, loving intentions into strategic actions and empower you to help change the world–and the future–forever: one child at a time.
 As I mentioned in my last blog post, I am participating in a community read through/review of this book on the blog, Compassion Family.

I am reviewing chapters 10 and 11.  I will share my reviews here tomorrow and Friday.  Or you can check out Jill's blog, compassionfamily.blogspot.com, on Wednesday, August 24, and Friday, August 26.