Being "the one"

There are some things that I want to be "the one" that people talk about. 

Like...
The one who can make people feel joyful
The one who has good advice
The one who cooks really great meals
The one who has a clean house
The one who is a good mom and wife


Then there are those things that I hope to never be "the one" that people talk about.

Like...
The one who should have been there when someone needed me

The one who makes others look at Christians negatively
The one who disappoints or drops the ball
The one who is too judgmental
The one who is too emotional
The one who is too obsessive
The one who is too _____________________

Just fill in the blank and it would at some time in my life and thought processes probably true. 

I live my life feeling like I am running as fast and hard as I can away from being "the one".  I spend a lot of time encircled in my own thoughts of how to avoid being "the one". 

But the Bible says, " Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things." 

It isn't that I shouldn't do my best to do what is right and good and honorable, but I shouldn't be dwelling on what others think about what I am or am not doing.

Someone posted this quote on Facebook the other day.

We are so vain that we even care for the opinion of those we don't care for.” Marie Von Ebner-Eschenbach

 

Now, I have no idea who that lady is or even how to pronounce her name, but that quote has been like a seed that was planted in my heart and mind and has grown there for the last few days.

I often feel like I am doing the noble thing by thinking of how others perceive my actions, but I see how there is vanity in it as well.

So, I have to live with my flaws and pray that others have the mercy to live with them as well and to accept that sometimes I will be "the one", for good and for bad.